Written by: Amanda Levison, M.S., LMHC, LPC, CCBT
"Grief is the agony of an instant, the indulgence of grief the blunder of a life." Benjamin Disraeli
Loss is painful. We have all experienced a loss in our life, whether it be big or small... a loss of a job, a loss of a pet, a loss of a loved one. It's natural to grieve in various ways but beyond it all, loss is painful whichever we look at it.
People say it gets "easier with time," it's not that the pain goes away but it's sort of like a scar. When you have a fresh wound, it hurts, and when you look at that scar you remember what happened, how you got it and the pain you felt at that moment. Over time, the scar fades but it's still there. The pain of a loss is similar to that scar. You will still have that pain but somehow it isn't as sharp as the initial loss, and when you think about that loss, there isn't as much pain but more of sadness and feeling at ease.