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5 Tips to Increase Self-Esteem and Find Happiness Within Yourself

Written by: Amanda Levison, M.S., LMHC, LPC, CCBT

Do you find it difficult to take time to focus on yourself? Are you always helping others? The new year is a perfect time to gain control of your life by building self-esteem and finding inner happiness. In 2021, it is hard to focus on everything that needs to be done, which can lead to burnout. Taking time for yourself is not selfish, and it can allow you to become the best version of yourself. Here are some steps to live a life with more joy from our Harrisburg PA therapist:

Making the time to get to know your best self.

First, identify your likes, dislikes, interests, and what makes you happy. Write in a journal describing yourself and how others would describe you. Decide activities that make you feel relaxed, such as watching TV or listening to music. Choose your goals and set a new year’s resolution and decide what you want to accomplish and how you can achieve them.

Reframe your negative thoughts.

Now that you've determined what brings you joy and happiness, identify negative thoughts. This doesn't sound easy, but it can be done. Set goals to find ways to live a happier life. Once you diminish negatively from your life, you will start living more positively.

Add positive support.

Connect to friends and family who listen and support you. Talk with them and share your thoughts and ideas.

Think outside the box.

Find something you enjoy. It could be daily mantras, positive podcasts, yoga, meditation. Speak to yourself as you would speak to a close friend.

Make a daily gratitude list.

Everybody has plenty to be thankful for. Take a few minutes to write down 10 things you have been grateful for. Keeping this record will remind you how lucky you are.

It is important to remember that change takes time and is not something that will happen overnight. As you put in the work to remove the negative from your life while adding positive, positivity will follow every aspect of life. Remember that you are worthy, smart, and deserve to live a life full of happiness. If you find these tips useful and want to hear more about this, you can visit our office or schedule virtual counseling.

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